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License to Wed (2007)
IMDB rating: 5.10
Plot: Sadie and Ben are in love, and although Ben suggests getting married in the Caribbean, Sadie has her heart set on a wedding at the family church, St. Augustine’s. Ben says sure, and they meet with the pastor, Rev. Frank. The only date open for two years is three weeks away, and Frank insists the kids go through his marriage prep course. They’re to write their own vows; he also demands chastity, bugs their apartment, initiates arguments, has them care for robot twins, creates friction between Ben and her family, and raises doubts in Sadie. Desperate, Ben looks for dirt on Frank. Can he undermine Frank’s authority and keep Sadie’s heart?
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Directors: Kwapis Ken
Actors: Williams Robin,Krasinski John,Olsen Eric Christian,Davis DeRay,Tempel William,Baumgartner Brian,Cade Blaine,Figueiredo Craig,Flitter Josh,Hodges Poncho,Quinlan David,Strauss Peter,Tyson Sean,Comedy,Romance,
Eloping, then having a ceremony/reception later?
my boyfriend and i are thinking of eloping before we move in together, but we don’t want anyone to know. by then, we’ll have been together for about 5 and a half years (eachother’s first bf/gf). we realize eloping is a REAL wedding. we want to do it because we dont want to live together unmarried and we truly love eachother. we just want to be together and start our lives together. our relationship has always been long-distance, and we just dont want to wait to be together everyday any longer. we’ve been planning to get married for a few years now, and both our families acknowledge its going to happen. the thing is, my family is very VERY controlling- the ceremony and reception will be about them and their social standing, not about celebrating love. to us, our wedding is very important, and we want it the way we want it, not how my family thinks we should have it. sadly, it would mean excluding our friends because they have very big mouths (no offense to them but they know it lol). so, we were thinking of taking a small vacation and getting married, then years down the road (my parents want me to get married at 24-30, so its basically whenever THEY say we can get married) we will have the ceremony so they and all of their friends can attend it and it can be all formal and ritzy just how they like it. (really, we dont want any gifts at all, so dont think we’re having a ceremony later for that) and, no, we cant pay for it ourselves. my parents insist on having the wedding their way and if we dont, there will be a HUGE family fight, which really isn’t worth all the hassle. anyways, enough of explaining, im not asking for any opinions or anything, i’m just wondering, how would we go about doing this? if we explain the situation to the minister, would he go along with it? and, what about the whole thing with already having a marriage license? as long as we dont tell anyone but the minister, would anyone be able to find out?
i realize alot of people here will think its selfish, immature, dishonest, and disrespectful , but really, this is how we want to go about doing this, and this marriage will be between us and God. if it’s wrong in God’s eyes, we’ll hear about it when the time comes, so please, not that we dont value your opinions, we just want answers to the questions we’re asking about. thank you everyone. and btw, we would appreciate a lil support if you have it =p (just a joke to lighten the mood…)
thanks for the support leigh =) and we’ll definitely take that into consideration. its a great idea!
Hi, unfortunately I cant help you with the technical stuff of getting married but I just wanted to tell you that I think it is a really good idea and that the two of you should do what will make you happy.
Its so Romeo and Juliet! Get yourself a nice dress, put flowers i your hair and walk down the aisle towards the man you love. Maybe instead of wedding bands(which will make it SO obvious to others) you can get matching necklaces or bracelets? If you like the idea of rings, wear it on the middle finger of your left hand, The ancient Egyptians did this because they believed the middle finger was directly linked to the heart.
Good luck with everything.
Leigh | Jan 29, 2010
I can’t help you with the technicalities, but I can tell you this: you don’t want to alienate your families. You don’t want one relationship, no matter how important, to get in the way of so many others that you’ve formed over the years. Try talking to your families and explain your feelings, etc. If that doesn’t work, then revisit the idea. It’s better to tell the truth and disagree than to lie. You’d be hiding your love for one another. My fiance and I have mentioned the idea of eloping once or twice, but we would rather wait another year or two than cause division in our families.
The thing is, when you love each other, you don’t need a legal document or a preacher or a white dress to be married in God’s eyes. Obviously, based on what you’ve written, God is important to you. You don’t want to do anything that would be wrong in God’s eyes. God knows you in your hearts, and knows whether you’re ready. Look to Him for the strength to approach your families.
Good luck in whatever God leads you to do.
roxas_namine2011 | Jan 29, 2010
Of course you don’t want to alienate your families, but THEY shouldn’t want to alienate YOU either.
Now, you do realize that, once you have signed the marriage license on the dotted line, had it witnessed and paid the fees … YOU ARE MARRIED. All you really need in order to be lawfully wedded as man and wife IS the license. The ceremony, the big poufy dress, the guy in the monkey suit, the vows, the ritual, the cake … that’s all for show, hon, and completely unnecessary in order for you and your man to BE married. If you would like to go and have a small ceremony by yourselves, you can … but after the marriage certificate/license is signed, you’re really done.
After all the drama you’ve described, it sounds like everyone around is being selfish, and you two just want to tie the knot so you can start your lives together. Just go, get the license, sign on the line, and be done with it. The wedding doesn’t matter – THE MARRRIAGE is what’s important.
This is my view.
Myth_Understood | Jan 29, 2010
Either elope OR have a ceremony/reception later. Ceremonies with receptions are for UNMARRIED people to get married. They are not for married people to have a sham wedding and pretend they’re getting married, have a party that’s all about them, and receive gifts.
That is a separate issue from a controlling family.
Ms. X | Jan 29, 2010
Contrary to popular belief, you cannot get married "secretly" because when a man and woman apply for a Marriage License their names and addresses are printed in the newspaper. Birth announcements are publicized, death notices are publicized, divorce decrees are publicized and so are applications for Marriage Licenses. All of this information is considered "public knowledge’" and anyone can walk into a Court House and view this information.
When a man and woman request to have a "second wedding ceremony" by their hometown minister in their hometown church, that minister can either agree or refuse to conduct another ceremony, you should never assume that he or she will go along with your plans. Just recently I heard about a couple who were secretly married and when the minister asked for their Marriage License two days before their wedding ceremony they were completely shocked and caught off guard about what to say or do. They did not expect the minister to ask for their Marriage License in front of the Bride’s Mother and Father.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Avis B | Jan 29, 2010
Yes you can, but DO NOT expect gifts/shower/bachelor/bachelorette party.
Terri | Jan 30, 2010
